Thursday, January 24
Posted by: ELLA ♥
Time: Thursday, January 24, 2008
Comments: 0
Rules of an Argument
Designate a time for you to resolve it then pray before you begin talking about the issues.
No threats during argument.
No blanket judgments or labeling generalizations.
Stay on the topic at hand.
No interrupting.
Stay in present tense.
Don't argue in the dark. (without evidence)
Don't walk away without saying to your partner, "I'll be back". (parang cool-off a bit)
No finger pointing.
Take responsibility for your thoughts. Use "I" language.
Write down the topic at the beginning to insure staying on topic and clarify the issue.
Don't bring up past issues.
Try to avoid over-dramatization.
Allow time to collect your thoughts. Immediate response is not necessary.
Approach the argument with a problem solving attitude, rather than blame.
Try to avoid statements so critical that the other person has no course but to retaliate.
Don't save up feelings and dump them all at once, try to air feelings often.
Try not to yell.
Don't use abusive language or labels.
No gossip.
Speak for yourself.
Neither person is right, there are only differences. Both win when the conflict is resolved.
Admit you're angry.
Go forth as equals. Don't use power plays.

Exclusive Rule for Guys: no shouting! don't cower the girl into submission.
Exclusive Rule for Girls: no crying! talo na kami pag umiyak ka na.



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